What I wish I knew at 23 instead of 43

I turned 43 a few weeks ago, and I couldn’t help but reflect on who I was 20 years ago and what I wish that version of me knew. 

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Now, I don't regret a single thing. 

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If it weren’t for what I endured and learned these last two decades, I very well might not be the person I am today. 

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But I wanted to share with you the 8 lessons I’d tell my 23 year old self if I had the chance, because maybe some of these are things you need to hear today. 

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Lesson 1: Speak with integrity

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If you wouldn't say something directly to someone's face, don't say it behind their back. 

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Choose face-to-face conversations for necessary discussions and let go of the rest.

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Lesson 2: Uphold your values at all costs 

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Never compromise your values for perceived gains, whether it’s financial or otherwise.

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Your values should guide how you build your career and the partnerships you form. Integrity comes first.

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Lesson 3: Family first, always

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While career success is fulfilling, family brings the greatest joy and motivation. 

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My companies are important, but family holds a higher place in my heart. 

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They drive me to work harder and achieve more than I ever have before – and that’s coming from an immigrant kid with a high bar because my dad pushed me harder than you could imagine (which I understand why as a dad myself now).

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Lesson 4: Build your personal brand 

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23-year old me might be confused about this one since social media really wasn’t a huge thing in 2004 yet… but whether you're an entrepreneur or not, establishing a personal brand online is powerful. 

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Engage in online communities, contribute meaningfully, and gradually scale your presence. The impact can be life-changing.

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Lesson 5: Embrace the morning  

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An hour of focused work in the morning can be more productive than three hours of scattered work in the afternoon. 

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If you're struggling to find time, try waking up earlier. 

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The quiet morning hours are a goldmine for productivity.

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Lesson 6: Prioritize your health and appearance

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Physical health and appearance are crucial for you, your family, and your business. 

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Take care of your body and dress for success. 

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These things aren’t superficial and actually matter greatly in the long run.

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Lesson 7: Focus on the process

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When chasing those big goals, you need to concentrate on the process, NOT the result

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Dreaming about the end won't help you get there. 

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Focus on the daily tasks that are gonna get you there. Do a good job today and tomorrow to get results next year.

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Lesson 8: Value fitness and family over anything else

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Anybody can flex a Rolex or a BMW as long as they’ve got the credit card limit for it. 

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Now a healthy body and a happy family? That’s the biggest flex of all. 

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That cannot be bought. You have to earn those and put in effort. 

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These lessons have shaped my life, and I hope they inspire you to reflect on your own journey and growth.

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Which is exactly what I want you to do this week – reflect and get your own priorities in order. 

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They might look different than mine, all that matters is that you know what they are and stay true to them no matter what.

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